This year, I need some Christmas vibes and festive joy. I don't care that it's the middle of November. I don't care what anyone thinks, because:
SOD IT. I'M PUTTING UP MY TREE!
At what point do you put your own personal happiness above the opinions of other people? Often, from a young age we are picked on for being unique and individual. As we grow up, that starts to change; or does it? Here's a few ideas as to how to make sure you're not afraid of being perfectly you.
1) YOU DID IT FROM THE MOMENT YOU STARTED
Working in our industry, or even wanting to work in our industry was your first MASSIVE step towards owning your individuality. There are plenty of negatives within working in entertainment (salary, competition, Covid flash flash flash...) and you chose to fight the fight because you wanted to work in an industry you love. Pretty cool, right?
On that note, have you seen how wonderful our tribe are at supporting those that dare to be different? #CheerUpCharlie
2) YOU'RE YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC
If you do things a little differently (or a lot differently!) to everyone else, it's easy to compare yourself to others and beat yourself down for not doing things their way. 'It's tried and tested, so maybe that is the best way?' NO, not necessarily. No one is judging you as harshly as you are judging yourself (they are busy worrying about their own problems, not yours, I promise).
3) THEY MIGHT NOT BE THE ENEMY
I talk a lot about how my parents told me that whilst they would support my dream of moving to London and training to become a dancer, they wanted me to also get a business degree. Anyone else have a similar conversation? At first, it was infuriating. I was ready to take the world by the tutu and join the FAME school and dance every hour I could.
Now, I couldn't be more grateful for their advice. I must have been the only 21 year old to graduate as a dancer with a business degree!
I understand that they weren't trying to shut my creativity down, they were just looking out for me. Don't be angry with people because they have a different perspective. It can be good to listen and compromise.
4) WOMEN DON'T OWE YOU PRETTY!
In Florence Given's book, she talks about how it is actually easier to wear make up and conform to society's 'norm'; she talks about how it takes real effort to be who you actually are. I think that's a fascinating sentiment. In order to be successful, you have to discover your brand and be the best version of it (take a look at Mandy Cresswell's talk on Imposter Syndrome). Once you know who you are, even when people put you down, you'll have the strength of character to know what being you really means.
5) BECAUSE HAMILTON IS ALWAYS RIGHT
"That would be enough"...Actually, no not for everyone Eliza. Everyone is different and we should be celebrating those differences. Ambition can rage loudly in some and in others ambitions have been achieved or it's not yet clear what the ambition is. Wherever you are on your personal ambition make sure you continue to be a cheerleader to those that are striving for their own success around you! In our final session of The Career Hustle with Sharon D. Clarke and Susie McKenna, these amazing women spoke about bringing people up once you've found your own success. BRING. PEOPLE. UP!