With lots of uncertainty in our lives, it's easy to go from the point of worry to the point of despair very quickly. Controlling this is all about focus, fighting the anxiety demons in your mind and taking small steps forward every day. If you have been made redundant, don't allow yourself to go from the point of no job to the point of 'I'll have to give up my flat and move back with my parents' in a nano second. Focus on the here and now. You've got this.
1) Manage that anxiety
It is absolutely natural to feel panicked after losing your job, but you have to stay focused on the here and now. You are not Henny-penny and the sky is not falling in. You have to acknowledge that you may be catastrophizing; once you (and your brain) understands this, you will be more able to focus on the task in hand. Here is an article we found about managing anxiety in a crisis.
2) Be proud of your journey
Acknowledging that this is not the first bump in your road should help you manage this one. You have already come so far and achieved so much. Look back and ask yourself if the 'you' of five years ago, would be proud of the 'you' now. The answer is YES. Even if it doesn't feel like it right now. I have a folder in my emails of small wins and complementary emails I have received. Whenever I feel like I need a boost, I go into this folder and remind myself of my journey to get to where I am now. Try this, it works for me.
3) It's the small things
You might not be able to achieve all of the big hitters on your list so focus on the small ones. Decide on small things that you are going to achieve this week, be that helping someone who is less experienced than you or even starting a hub for people who might need the motivation to keep going (say what?!). Focusing on small things will help you manage your catasrophizing brain. As they say...look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves.
4) Love your body
The last thing you need right now is to think 'and on top of everything else, I've put on weight over lockdown so I won't get the job anyway'. Defining your self worth based on what you look like is a load of BULLSHIT. Of course, you should try and be as healthy as possible in order to look after yourself (and if you look after your body, you also look after your mind). You are glorious. Take your first steps to being more comfortable in your own skin with this article so that your list of 'and on top of everything...' is shortened TODAY.
5) Listen to the little person inside you
There is a little person inside of you that needs protecting. They are vulnerable and often scared of the big person's ambition. Sometimes it is this person that makes us catastrophic. Make sure you check in with that person and do something every day that looks after them. That person is your core self, one that hasn't left you since you were little and they will always protect you.